Every man has his own ideas about life. Everyone has a certain mindset. We like certain things.
Whose advice a man takes and whose advice he follows depends on what he thinks. We take the advice of many, but do not follow the advice of all. Why do we do that? What other people say is wise. We compare that to our understanding. We only believe that if it matches. Most of the time, man does not look for advice or guidance, he just needs approval of what he believes. He needs to make sure that what I think is reasonable.
It is also important to understand when to give advice. It is okay to ask for advice and give it. It is not fair that no one asks and we give advice. The only wisdom is to remain silent where your words are not needed. This is the story of a girl. I once told a relative that you should do this. Hearing this, the girl said, "Did I ask you?" He said to his friend, "No, you didn't ask, but it occurred to me that I should say." The girl said, why do you think you should say? Who gave you this right? Do we ever think before we talk or advise anyone that I have a right to say so? Sometimes when a man is older, he assumes that I have the right to give advice.
This is the story of a learned man. Its place in the whole society. Everyone should come for advice. Once a brother came to him for advice before making a decision. The man argued in his own way. The man thought it was true. He wondered why the man in the house was so good at giving such good advice. One of the young men in the family was lying on the road. The brother asked the learned man, “Why don't you give any advice to the young man in your family? The reason, the learned man said, is that he never asks anything. If asked I will give a definite answer. How to believe what is not asked?
No one can persuade those who do not believe. We often say that I am tired of explaining things to him, but where is he to listen to someone? He has to make his own assumptions! If we know that this person is not going to believe what I am saying, then it is our misunderstanding to explain it. We sometimes even say in anger that, if my point is human, respect it, do the rest as you like! Trying to convince some people that we are wasting our energy.
It is not necessary for everyone to believe us. Trying to force our point is also a form of atrocity. Even if someone asks, let us say what we think is right, then leave it to us to believe or not to believe. Even if you don't believe it and your decision is wrong, it is not fair to say that I told you before. Where did you believe Enjoy now! This is the story of a father and son. In one case the father advised the son. The son said in good language, "Dad, I don't think you're right." Should I do what I think is right? Father was sensible. "If you don't like what I'm saying, you should definitely do what you think is right," he said. It is possible that I am also wrong! The son decided in his own way. Son